Guiding Principles for your Mind

The human mind is the most powerful tool you possess. It has the ability to shape your reality, influence your emotions, and dictate your behaviours. Yet, despite its power, most people don’t fully understand how their mind works, leading to self-sabotage, limiting beliefs, and repeated negative patterns.

Marisa Peer, a renowned therapist, teaches that the mind is like a powerful computer, it follows the instructions you give it, whether those instructions serve you or harm you. Neuroscience and quantum physics also reveal that your thoughts, words, and beliefs carry an energetic frequency that affects your body on a cellular level and influences the reality you attract.

When you understand how your mind works, you can take control of it, reprogram your subconscious, and start creating the life you truly desire.

THE MINDS NUMBER ONE PRIORITY IS TO KEEP YOU ALIVE

Your mind perceives any potential threat, whether physical or emotional, as a survival risk.

✅ Positive Example: Learning to reframe rejection as redirection helps prevent the mind from treating social discomfort as life-threatening.

❌ Negative Example: If your mind associates speaking up in meetings with potential embarrassment, it triggers the fight-or-flight response, making you freeze or avoid participating.

🔬 Neuroscience Connection: The amygdala, responsible for detecting threats, cannot distinguish between real danger and emotional discomfort.

YOUR MIND CANNOT TELL THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN THE TRUTH AND A LIE

It believes whatever you tell it, whether it is true or false.

✅ Positive Example: Saying, “I am becoming more successful every day” conditions your mind to seek success, even if you’re just starting.

❌ Negative Example: Saying, “I’ll never find love” makes your mind accept it as truth, causing behaviours that push love away.

🔬 Neuroscience Connection: The brain operates on neuroplasticity, it adapts and rewires based on repeated thoughts and beliefs, regardless of their accuracy.

YOUR MIND DOES NOT KNOW WHAT IS GOOD OR BAD FOR YOU

It simply acts on the thoughts and words you repeat most often.

✅ Positive Example: Repeatedly saying, “I enjoy eating healthy food” makes your subconscious associate pleasure with healthy choices.

❌ Negative Example: Constantly saying, “I need sugar to feel better” reinforces the belief that sugar is a coping mechanism, making cravings stronger.

🔬 Quantum Physics Connection: Energy follows focus; where you direct your mental energy, your body and reality will follow.

YOUR MIND DOES NOT KNOW THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN REAL AND FICTIONAL

Your mind reacts to imagined experiences the same way it reacts to real ones.

✅ Positive Example: An athlete visualizing themselves winning a race triggers brain activity identical to physically practicing, improving performance.

❌ Negative Example: Someone imagining worst-case scenarios (e.g., “I will mess up my exam”) activates stress responses as if failure is happening in real-time, leading to anxiety and poor performance.

🔬 Neuroscience Connection: Studies show that mental rehearsal strengthens the same neural pathways as physical practice, reinforcing learned behaviours.

WHATEVER YOU FOCUS ON EXPANDS

Your thoughts act as a magnet, attracting experiences that match your dominant focus.

✅ Positive Example: Focusing on gratitude makes the brain filter for more things to be grateful for, increasing happiness.

❌ Negative Example: Replaying past failures makes your brain reinforce the belief that failure is inevitable.

🔬 Quantum Physics Connection: The Law of Attraction states that your dominant thoughts shape the energy you project and, in turn, the reality you attract.

YOUR THOUGHTS CREATE YOUR REALITY

Your subconscious mind does not question what you think, it simply acts on it. Your repeated thoughts become your beliefs, and your beliefs shape your life.

✅ Positive Example: If you consistently think, “I am confident and capable,” your brain strengthens neural pathways associated with confidence, making it easier for you to act in self-assured ways.

❌ Negative Example: If you constantly tell yourself, “I’m unlucky,” your subconscious will seek evidence to support this belief. You’ll notice setbacks more, make decisions that reinforce failure, and create a self-fulfilling prophecy.

🔬 Quantum Physics Connection: The Observer Effect in quantum mechanics shows that particles behave differently when observed, meaning consciousness impacts reality. Your dominant thoughts shape what you experience.

YOUR ACTIONS MUST ALIGN WITH YOUR THOUGHTS

The strongest force in human nature is the need to act in ways that match our dominant beliefs.

✅ Positive Example: A person who repeatedly tells themselves, “I am great at public speaking” will naturally prepare better, take opportunities to practice, and become more skilled over time.

❌ Negative Example: Someone who believes, “I am bad at relationships” will subconsciously push people away or sabotage connections to confirm their belief.

🔬 Quantum Physics Connection: The Law of Resonance states that similar frequencies attract. Your thoughts emit an energetic frequency that attracts matching experiences.

EVERY THOUGHT CREATES A PHYSICAL AND EMOTIONAL RESPONSE

Your body instantly reacts to what you think and believe.

✅ Positive Example: Thinking about a happy memory releases dopamine and serotonin, making you feel good.

❌ Negative Example: Constantly worrying about failure releases cortisol, the stress hormone, which increases anxiety and lowers immune function.

🔬 Neuroscience Connection: The brain cannot distinguish between real and imagined stress, triggering the fight-or-flight response even when no real danger exists.

IMAGINATION IS MORE POWERFUL THAN KNOWLEDGE

Your subconscious mind reacts more strongly to vivid images than logic or facts.

✅ Positive Example: Athletes who visualize themselves winning strengthen the same neural pathways as if they were physically practicing.

❌ Negative Example: If you constantly imagine yourself failing a test, your brain will react as if it’s already happening, increasing anxiety and making failure more likely.

🔬 Neuroscience Connection: Mental rehearsal strengthens neural connections, making imagined experiences feel real.

EMOTION ALWAYS OVERRIDES LOGIC

The subconscious is driven by emotion, not reason.

✅ Positive Example: Feeling deep gratitude can shift your emotional state and attract more positive experiences.

❌ Negative Example: Fear of rejection can cause you to avoid opportunities, even when logically, you know rejection isn’t life-threatening.

🔬 Quantum Physics Connection: High-energy emotions (like love and gratitude) operate at higher vibrational frequencies than fear or doubt. What you focus on energetically expands.

THE MIND MOVES YOU FROM PAIN TO PLEASURE

Your mind is wired to seek pleasure and avoid pain, even if the pleasure is short-term and harmful. It will always attempt to get you what it thinks you want regardless of whether ii is good for you or not.

✅ Positive Example: Associating exercise with fun and health increases the likelihood of sticking to it.

❌ Negative Example: If you associate stress relief with unhealthy food, you will automatically crave it in difficult situations.

🔬 Neuroscience Connection: The brain releases dopamine when you engage in pleasurable activities, reinforcing habits through reward mechanisms.

THE MIND RESISTS CHANGE BECAUSE THE FAMILIAR FEELS SAFE

Even if something is unhealthy, your mind clings to it because it is predictable.

✅ Positive Example: Repeating, “I am comfortable with success” can rewire your mind to embrace new opportunities.

❌ Negative Example: Staying in toxic relationships because they feel “comfortable” despite being harmful.

🔬 Quantum Physics Connection: Your energetic vibration attracts what you focus on. If you focus on familiarity instead of growth, you will remain in cycles of the past.

THE MIND TAKES YOUR WORDS LITERALLY

The subconscious does not interpret, analyse, or question your words, it simply obeys.

✅ Positive Example: Saying, “I am choosing healthy foods” reinforces empowerment and commitment.

❌ Negative Example: Saying, “I shouldn’t eat junk food” makes the mind focus on it more, increasing cravings.

Common Language Mistakes and Better Alternatives:

🔬 Quantum Physics Connection: Words carry an energetic frequency. Statements of certainty (“I am”) attract more powerfully than uncertainty (“I hope”).

THE MIND CANNOT HOLD CONFLICTING BELIEFS

If two opposing beliefs exist, they cancel each other out.

✅ Positive Example: If you believe, “I am worthy of success,” you will seek and embrace opportunities.

❌ Negative Example: If you believe, “I want to be successful, but I’m not good enough,” the negative belief will override the positive one.

🔬 Quantum Physics Connection: Coherence vs. Incoherence, vibrationally aligned thoughts create clear outcomes, while contradictory beliefs create confusion and stagnation.

WHATEVER YOU FOCUS ON EXPANDS

Your mind magnifies whatever you repeatedly think about.

✅ Positive Example: Focusing on gratitude rewires the brain to look for more things to be grateful for.

❌ Negative Example: Dwelling on failures makes your brain filter for more evidence of failure.

🔬 Quantum Physics Connection: The Law of Attraction states that you attract experiences matching your dominant energetic focus.

WHATEVER FOLLOWS “I AM” BECOMES A PART OF YOUR IDENTITY

Be very mindful of the words you place after “I AM” as your mind will adapt this as part of your identity.

✅ Positive Examples: I am resilient, I am capable, I am confident, ect. Your mind will seek out evidence to reinforce your belief.

❌ Negative Example: I am stressed, I am anxious, I am depressed, I am stupid. Your mind will seek out evidence to reinforce your belief.

When you want to express an emotion, use “I am feeling…” instead. I AM gives you ownership. Don’t place anything after I AM that you don’t want to own. Emotions, situations, ect are temporary and will pass.

WHY THIS MATTERS

• Your subconscious mind is always listening and takes your words literally.

• Your words create mental blueprints that your mind follows.

• Your brain filters reality based on what you repeatedly tell it.

By reframing your language, you shift your mind's focus from limitations to possibilities, rewiring it to support your success instead of reinforcing struggle.

FINAL THOUGHT

Your mind is not your enemy, it is your most powerful tool. When you learn to harness its abilities, reframe your thoughts, and use language deliberately, you take control of your life.

Your mind is always listening and responding. If you do not take control of your thoughts, they will control you.

• If you feed your mind empowering beliefs, it will create a reality that supports you.

• If you feed it fear, doubt, and negativity, it will manifest struggle and resistance.

Reprogramming your subconscious is not about wishful thinking, it is about speaking to your mind in a way that aligns with the reality you want to create.

If you want change, start by changing the words you say to yourself. Your mind is always listening, and it will create whatever you consistently tell it. Choose your thoughts, words and beliefs wisely, because they are shaping your future right now.

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